I struggle everyday to ignore the voice in my head that wants bread and pizza and cupcakes. Each day I resist is a win. My body feels better. I have energy. I lose a little more of the weight I carry and my clothes fit better. Not all eating disorders make you ‘skinny’; they all make you unhealthy, though. It’s disordered eating if you use food to substitute for something else (love, boredom, loneliness). It’s my way of making discomfort and pain go away. But, in truth, living this way makes the pain worse, physically and mentally. Disordered eating is an addiction, like alcohol and drugs. Once you realize that, you can look at others with compassion. Everyone is fighting something. No one is happy all the time and if they tell you they are, well, it’s just not true. Social media has all of us putting our best face forward – only a handful of people share their authentic real-life experiences. It’s a catch-22; should we be real or should we only show the good things? The “good things only” approach gives us the false sense that everyone is happy (except for us), while the “my life sucks, give me love” posters, while telling their truth, are looking for some validation and comfort, as well.
So, what’s the solution? I’m no expert, but, how about not believing everything you read and not comparing yourself and your life to others? Easier said than done, of course. But it’s something I practice at every day. I can get mired in my pity party when I compare my life to my Facebook friends….her husband is so thoughtful (maybe she’s just reinforcing his ‘good behavior’ because she’s training him?); her hair is so perfect (after the 20th selfie shot); she is always having so much fun (why would she share her boring moments of loads of laundry and dusting?); her artwork is so amazing and mine looks like a toddler did it (because she’s not showing you all her ‘bad’ pages). I challenge everyone to find your passion and don’t care if your high school lab partner/boyfriend’s mother/guy you had a crush on in college likes it on Facebook or retweets it.
Do the things you like. If you don’t want to put pictures in your blog post because you just want to get something off your chest and are not worried about being ‘pinned’…then do it (wink). I allow myself to get so bogged down because of perceived expectations of imaginary readers, that I haven’t posted since last October. I’m trapped in my perfectionist mind….but not today!
Follow your heart, too.